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Sending Out Love: The Christmas Program That Changed Our Family
How to Pick The Best Christmas Gift
Avoiding a Not-So-Perfect Christmas
 
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MOMS Volume 5 / Issue 19 / 2010 • Published quarterly by APMedia
 
Untitled Document
From My Heart
by Kim Snider, editor

Dear Readers,
 
The holiday issue of MOMS is always my favorite issue to work on??every year! I think that this is because Christmas means so much to me personally, and because Christmas is so much fun in the Philippines. Nowhere is Christmas celebrated more extravagantly than in these Islands??our lanterns (mga parol), our family reunions, our music??all shout that Christmas is coming and that Christmas is a wonderful event.
 
This year, I want to challenge you to rethink the meaning of Christmas. Times are harder economically??gifts may be fewer. Will that matter in your celebration? What does Christmas really mean to you? How can you transmit its meaning to your family?
 
I hope that in this issue of MOMS we can give you some new ideas about making the holidays extra special for your family??with or without a lot of money??and that all of us can remember the true meaning of this wonderful season.

Merry Christmas!
 
 


 
 
A Special Thank You






Haydee Chu
As editor, I would like to say a very special thank you to a very special friend. When I started graduate  school, Haidee Chu, interior designer by profession, willingly took on the task of Assistant Editor, ensuring that MOMS got to press, and to you, on time. I could not have produced MOMS for the last three years without her help Thank you, Haidee, for a job very well done.
 
MOMS thanks you for your financial help! 
· Dra. Margarita Avena
?? Concepcion, Tarlac
· Malagasang Assembly of God
?? Imus, Cavite
· New Hope Assembly of God
?? San Jose, Rizal
· United Evangelical Church
?? Olongapo City                                                                                                                           
 
 
How to Pick The Best Christmas Gift
by Nelson T. Dy

Want to find the perfect Christmas gifts for your loved ones? Before you march into the department store (and maybe buy things they won??t appreciate), take time to find out their ??love language.?
 
Popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman??s The Five Love Languages, a ??love language? means how a person prefers to be shown love. If you express your love in ??English? to someone who wants to be loved in ??Chinese,? then there is a problem. According to Dr. Chapman, the five love languages are:
 
Words of affirmation. People with this language highly prize being told they are loved. If your spouse or child is such a person, then a wonderful gift would be to buy a Christmas card ?? or better yet, take time and effort to make your own ?? and pour out your love in writing. The advantage of writing the affirming words down is that the recipient can enjoy reading it again and again.
 
Quality time. How many times have you heard the lament, ??I don??t want your gifts. I want you!? People with??quality time? as their love language feel valued when you drop everything from your busy schedule and join them in activities or conversation. One such gift for your family would be an intimate dinner or an outing where you give them your undivided attention.
 
Receiving gifts. Still, what is Christmas without the kris-kringle or the bonito-bonita? There are people who want to see, feel, touch (and maybe taste) a physical symbol of your love. They are not looking at the price tag of the gift, but at the message it conveys: ??I love you and am never taking you for granted.? Hint: Try to recall when your loved one once sighed, ??If I had the money, I would buy?? then surprise them with it! You don??t have an excuse when you receive your 13th month pay!
 
Acts of service. People with this love language appreciate it if you take time and energy to fill a need. Will your loved one be pleased if you finally repair that leaking faucet, mend the trousers, paint a room, or clean up the cluttered bodega? Someone creative gave out coupons to his family that say, ??This coupon entitles the bearer to ask me to do one household chore. Any chore.? One more suggestion: instead of dreading to spend time with your in-laws over the holidays, serve them. In so doing, you will express your love to your spouse.
 
Physical touch. Some people yearn for your loving touch. ??Touch? as a love language can be giving a much needed back massage or foot rub to your partner. To your children, it can be a warm, long hug.

Christmas is when we celebrate God??s gift to us?? His Son, Jesus. This year as you think about the gifts you will give, take the time to consider how to show love to others in the ways they will appreciate it the most. 

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Avoiding a Not-So-Perfect Christmas
by Revodem Avarientos

It is Christmas time once again, and everyone is getting ready. You can feel the energy in the air! There is no denying it is my favorite holiday and I am excited every year as it approaches. As I think back on my favorite Christmases, here is what I observe: it is not what you experience yourself at Christmas that makes a difference; it is what you do for others. Unfortunately we can get trapped into the wrong kind of Christmas celebrations.
 
The trap of self-centeredness: Focusing on what you will get for Christmas opens the possibility that you will end up being frustrated. Celebrating for all the wrong reasons can leave you exhausted, stressed and dried up! It is called the season for giving??not for receiving after all.
 
The trap of commercialized Christmas: Christmas is celebrated worldwide with the use of different media. Unfortunately many times the media is focused on materialism and celebration for celebration sake, drowning the true meaning of the season somewhere in the mix. One notion is that we should have lots of food, gifts to give and be around friends and relatives during Christmas for us to be complete. Now don??t get me wrong, these are all good things. But if we make these things the thermometer as to whether we have a good Christmas, chances are our Christmas will rate less than perfect. No wonder there is an increasing number of people who can??t find meaning during Christmas. It is because they are trying to compare their own celebration to the world standard and they feel that they can not measure up, especially in these hard times.
 
The trap of the ??Martha Syndrome: We tend to be so busy that before the season ends we feel exhausted. We do not have time to reflect and be focused on why we are celebrating Christmas in the first place. Spending apersonal time first reflecting on God??s goodness is a good way to put our minds into the right perspective before plunging into the whirl of holiday work.
 
So how do we achieve a better, if not a ??best? Christmas? I believe that we should focus not on ourselves but on others. Here is how:
 
· Let??s go back to the manger. As cliché as it sounds; we can never find true meaning for Christmas if we do not recognize the true reason for the season. Why are we celebrating Christmas? Checking our motives can have a great impact in our attitude towards the Season. Let us all focus on the big picture of what God has done for the sake of mankind through Jesus Christ.
 
· Let??s think of others first. God did not make Christmas so that He could gain something out of it. He made it so that He could give us a wonderful gift??to be His children. If we set our sights on giving instead of getting,  we will eventually feel truly free??an experience that surpasses all understanding.
 
Spending a meaningful Christmas is a conscious effort that everybody should make. It??s not an overnight experience, but rather, it is the culmination of our relationship to God. The more we are close to Him, the more we grasp the true meaning of Christmas. This season, may we all find the meaning that we are searching for.

Merry Christmas everyone and God bless!

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Sending Out Love: The Christmas Program That Changed Our Family
by Doreen Belo as told to Evelyn Damian and Gaye Dela Sierra




Doreen Belo
I had been living in our neighborhood for over a year but I really didn??t know anyone yet. One day a neighbor asked me if my daughter Paula could be her daughter Jasper??s playmate. I agreed and when their church had a Christmas musical, they invited Paula. Paula loved the musical and the church. From then on, every Sunday Paula would go with Jasper and her family to church.
 
After Paula started going to church, I noticed that her attitude had really changed. Before she started going to church she and her friends were always talking nonsense. They talked about the latest gadgets and problems they had in school. Her classmates said bad words. But after Paula started attending church, she  talked about her cell group! When I asked her to do something, she didn??t complain.
 
Our daughter changed!

There was such a big change in Paula??s life that I continued to let her go to church with our neighbors. I even wanted to go with her, but her dad didn??t want to go. By August, the following year, Paula auditioned and got a part in the Christmas musical. She auditioned for the play so that she could invite us to church. We agreed to go. We didn??t know that Paula and her cell group were praying for us to go to their church. Before the musical, around November, we finally relented and went. The topic for that Sunday was, ??Teach Us How to Pray.? After the service, her dad said, ??Ang ganda talaga ng preaching, napakabiblical?? I just kept quiet. I didn??t want to be pushy.
 
On our way home, Paula??s friend Jasper rode with us. She asked excitedly, ??Did you guys have fun? Are you coming back?? I didn??t answer but Edward did. He said, ??Actually, bago kami pumunta, humingi ako ng sign ke God kung calling ko na dyan ako or not. Kung may makita ako na kakilala ko, dyan ako talaga kasi wala akong kakilala kasi taga-Bacolod ako eh. Hindi kami talaga taga-rito. But when we were lining up to get the kids aged 5 and 6 from the children??s church, a guy touched me to get my attention. The guy was from La Salle Bacolod.?
 
It was amazing how specifically God answered him. So from then on, we attended every Sunday. We became active volunteer workers in the church.
 
Real changes in our life 
 
Belo Family  
 
Our children saw the changes in our life. Edward and I used to fight a lot, even in front of the children.We shouted at each other and once we got physical and the kids saw that, too. When we accepted Christ, we changed. No matter what problems we had, we were not afraid. Before this, if I had any small problem, my blood pressure soared and I felt sick.
 
Before I had a relationship with Christ, I didn??t pay attention to my children. I didn??t want to help them with their assignments. I couldn??t say  ??sorry? when I hurt them. I did not consider what my children were thinking. But I??m not like that anymore. When I scold them, I explain why I do it. I attend parenting seminars in church and I apply what I learn to my relationship with the children.
 
My mother came to Manila and she stayed for three weeks. She noticed the change in our kids and me and she was so proud. When she went back to the province, she told my relatives that my kids are so well disciplined. She saw how I disciplined them. She knew I wasn??t like that before.
 
Before I had a relationship with Christ, I didn??t care about my family in the province. I didn??t care about their needs. I was selfish. But now I try to help them; I call them long distance and give them advice. I share the Gospel with them. They have noticed the changes in me, too.
 
Before, I didn??t want any relative to live with us. But, the Lord spoke to me about letting Edward??s sister live with us and sending her to school. Now, Edward??s sister is graduating. Formerly, she wouldn??t smile. Now, she has totally changed her attitude. In Edward??s case, the change was step by step. Whereas before he was quiet and would rather that people talk to him first, now he greets people. He is sociable.
 
The hardest relationship to fix

The time came when I had to admit to myself that something was wrong in our relationship but I didn??t know what. I decided to leave Edward. That Sunday at church, I cried a lot during the service. I tried to avoid my cell group leader and everyone I knew, but Edward??s cell group leader??s wife saw me and she asked if I wanted to talk??I just cried.
  
I didn??t know that Edward had been feelin guilty and had talked to his cell group about it. They gav him advice, but it was up to Edward to correct hi mistake. All they could do was pray that Edward would make the right decision. The more Edward worked onhis problem, the more messed up it became until  learned about it.
 
Suddenly, our life went back to zero. I forgot I was a Christian. I went to bed feeling so angry. I wanted revenge. But at dawn, God woke me up and spoke to me. He wanted me to forgive Edward. I felt that was unfair of God, and I still wanted revenge. I struggled for more than an hour. When Edward finally woke up, I talked to him. I told him there are two ways, God??s way and my way. He said he would accept whatever I wanted to do. I told him, ??If it??s my way, I really want to make it hard for you but God is teaching me to forgive you so that the children will not be affected.? He cried and cried. He said I would never know what he had gone through worrying about how to get out of the mess.
 
Our pain didn??t leave right away. Although I forgave him, I still hurt. Without disclosing the details, I asked my pastor to pray for me. He prayed that God would remove my pain and I felt heaviness leave me. From then on, every time I felt the pain, I prayed that God would remove it. Edward attended a retreat for men and was baptized and I was, too. Eventually, the pain was gone and our relationship was healed.
 
??It feels good to obey the word of God but at the same time it??s hard.?
 
Family Devotions

We have family devotions every Friday evening. We use a devotional book. Sometimes, Edward tells me to lead our devotions but I remind him it??s his role. There are times when he reminds me of my role. Now, instead of fighting when we don??t do what needs to be done, we remind each other. Occasionally, during devotions, there will be a scolding and the kids will get hurt and tell me. I, in turn, talk to their dad about it. When we hurt our children, we say ??sorry? to them. We have learned that children are part of the family and they should be able to express how they feel and suggest solutions.
 
Advice for people going through hard times

God has brought a lot of people into my life now that have the same problem we had. As a result of what we have been through, I know what to tell them. You need to have fellowship with other Christians so you can get good advice and they can pray for you. And, if you plan on doing something wrong, they can correct you. You also need to read the Bible, and make God the center of your life. Consider what He will think about your plans. He will get hurt first when you make the wrong decision. Remember to pray when negative thoughts cross your mind and pray for God??s blessing on the people who hurt you. Edward also has gotten bold in sharing the word of God in his office.
 
Spending Christmas

I think Christmas should be spent with members of the family who still do not know Christ. It is the best time to bring them to church so that they will enjoy life as we do. Our whole family went back to Edward??s hometown one Christmas season and then later to my hometown and shared what happened to us. We told our story about how God changed our life. It was worth our trip because some of our relatives responded positively to what we shared.
 
Paula Jessica Belo??s Story 
 
??When I was ten, I didn??t have many friends i school so my mom and our neighbor had the idea that herdaughter Jasper and I could be playmates. Then, our neighbors invited me to the church Christmas musical.  thought that Christmas was about gifts and being happy;  wondered why the musical was about Jesus.
 
??I was amazed when I went to their church. I always thought church was boring, but their church was good. It was fun and not the usual place where you just sit on the benches. The people from that church were really nice and they tried not to offend you.
 
??Now we go every Sunday. We don??t feel obliged to go but we want to go??the preaching connects to the person. I feel I am closer to God, have a relationship with Him. I was the one who invited my family to church. At first, they were not interested. Once they even forbade me to go becauseI was spending more time thinking about church than my studies??every Sunday, instead of studying, I spent time in church. But, I continued to invite them to church. We prayed for them every Sunday in ourcell group. And?it worked!?

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Nooooooooodles! For New Year!

Internationally loved, noodles are an economical dish for your holiday party. 
 
Homemade Egg Noodles

The secret is in the hands. The less the cook handles the dough, the more tender the noodle. The ingredients are approximate amounts??a good cook can feel if the dough is right.

2 eggs
1 -1 œ c flour (more or less)
Œ c water
Salt and pepper
 
Mix all ingredients only until the dough is moist and you can handle it. Divide the dough into at least 4 parts. Cover your counter top with flour and pat one part into a square. Then roll out as thin as possible. With a sharp knife, cut into thin strips and lay out to dry. When brittle store noodles in a jar until you are ready to use them.
 
Fried Noodles??Thai Style??Serves 41 k rice noodle

Œ k chicken
Cooking oil

Plenty of chives or spring onions
4 t sugar
8 T fish sauce
8 T oyster sauce
4 egg
1/10 k monggo sprouts or cabbage
Œ c chopped garlicŒ k tofu, chopped into 1-cm cube
œ c water

In wok or large frying pan:
1. Heat the oil over low heat. Add garlic and sauté.
2. Add chicken and tofu and stir until the chicken is cooked.
3. Break the egg. Pour over the chicken and stir.
4. Add noodles and water. Stir until tender.
5. Add sugar, fish sauce, oyster sauce.
6. Add bean sprouts and chives. Turn off heat.
 
Garnish with lime wedges, ground peanuts and chilies, if desired.
 
Lomi Noodle Soup??Filipino Style??Serves 4-5 
 
1 T cooking oil
3 cloves garlic, crushed
1 onion, chopped
Œ k shrimp
10 pieces fish ball, halved
4 c water
2 pieces shrimp cubes
Chinese pechay, end leaves only, chopped
Carrots for color, chopped
2 T cornstarch
1 beaten egg
Egg noodles
 
Sauté in oil, garlic, onion, shrimp an fish balls together. Add water, shrim cubes and bring to boil. Ad homemade noodles. Cook until the noodles are tender. Add water if thewater decreases too much. Then add cornstarch stirring constantly. Then add petchay, carrots. Boil until carrotsare tender??3 minutes. Add beaten egg and serve.
 
Chicken and Noodles??American Style??Serves 6-8 
 
1 chicken
Salt
Pepper
1 bay leaf
Water
Chicken cubes (optional)
1 package egg noodles
 
Wash chicken. Put in large pot, and cover with water. Add salt, pepper,and bay leaf. Cover and boil until the chicken is tender and completelycooked. Remove chicken from thepot, and separate the skin and bones from the meat. Put the meat back into the broth and bring to rolling boil. (Add chicken cubes if you want to.) Add egg noodles and cook until they are tender. Serve on plate, or add more water if you want to make soup and serve in a bowl.
 
Delicious Desserts for Small Ovens
by Zenaida Calusay 
 
LEMON SQUARES

Flour Mixture Base:
œ c butter or margarine, softened
Œ c sugar
1 c flour
Calamansi Top Layer:
2 eggs
Ÿ c sugar
2 T calamansi juice (substitute for lemon juice)

2 T flour
œ t baking powder

For frosting: Confectioner??s sugar

Procedure: Beat margarine/butter for 30 seconds or until softened. Add the Œ c of sugar. Beat until combined. Beat in the 1 c of flour until crumbly. Press into the bottom of an ungreased 8 x 8 x 2 pan. Bake in 350 degrees for 15 - 18 min. or just till golden.
 
Meanwhile, combine eggs, Ÿ c sugar, the 2 T flour, baking powder & calamansi juice. Beat for 2 minutes and pour over hot baked layer. Bake in 350 degrees for 20 min. Sift confectioner??s sugar on top. Cool and slice into squares.
 
Variations: Substitute or mix with calamansi other flavor concentrates such as
pineapple or orange.
 
OATMEAL DROP COOKIES

Cream Mixture: In a large bowl, mix well:
œ c shortening
1 Œ c sugar
2 eggs
6 T molasses (Substitute: 3 T brown sugar dissolved
in 3 T of water or milk.)
Dry Ingredients: In another bowl, mix very well:
1 Ÿ c all purpose flour
1 t baking soda
1 t salt
1 t cinnamon

Pour in the dry ingredients mixture into the cream mixture. Mix until all of the flour mixture has been moistened.

Stir in:
2 c rolled oats
œ c cut-up nuts
1 c raisins

Drop rounded teaspoonfuls 2 inches apart in cookie sheet. Bake 400 degrees, 8-10 minutes (in a conventional oven or even in an ordinary household oven toaster).
 
NO BAKE MANGO SUPREME

This deliciously light dessert needs no baking, but you will need a freezer.

2 packs (250 ml) All Purpose Cream, whipping cream
1 can Sweetened Condensed milk
1 c crushed Graham crackers
5-6 ripe mangoes (or peaches), sliced thinly (about 1/8" thin)

Procedures:
1. Cool whipping cream and condensed milk in freezer for about 30 minutes.
2. Prepare crackers and mango slices.
3. Whip cream until stiff then add condensed milk and whip about 5 minutes more.
4. Arrange ingredients alternately in a transparent dish in this order:
  •     Graham crackers
  •     Whipped cream
  •     Mangoes
5. Cover with tinfoil and chill overnight in freezer or until firm.
 
Note: For a sweeter preparation, use 3 packs of 250 ml All Purpose Cream, 2 cans of condensed milk (double preparation).  

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Just Asking
by Peter Banzon
   

Q: The holidays are times when I want to be with my family, but everyone is so busy that family gatherings seem to be stressful events rather that meaningful times. Any suggestions?

A: we all look forward to be with our family during this long Christmas season. But the reality of busy schedules poses a challenge every year. So here are some tips for you to get the best out of the season with your famiy.

Plan ahead. Don??t procrastinate. Bahala na and mamaya na habits will spoil your plans.

Plan locations and schedules ahead. The holidays are the "official" reunion days for the Filipino family. We gather with our lolos and lolas, moms and dads, siblings, nephews and nieces. So you need to determine whose house you will gather at on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year??s Eve. October would be a good month to start getting everyone??s consensus.
  • Plan food assignments. Preparing food during this busy holiday can be very stressful, so early assignments help ease the burden.
  • Plan your leaves. Gone are the days when everyone has Christmas breaks. So the earlier you file your holiday leaves the better.
  • Plan your gift giving. This is one very stressful activity that eats up time, energy and money. Make your list early! Set a budget and live within it.
  • Plan the flow of the gathering. What do you want to accomplish during your time together apart from the usual gift giving, sumptuous meals, endless stories and conversations? Take time to focus on reason for the season...Jesus. Sing Christmas carols. Read the Christmas story from the Bible. Have everyone share what that means for them. Share blessings, needs and concerns, and have a time for prayer.

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Start a Relationship with Christ

Admit you have sinned."For all have sinned & fall short of the glory of God."
Romans 3:23

Believe in Jesus."For God so loved the world that He gave His one & only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life."
John 3:16

Confess and leave your sin behind."If we confess our sins, He is faithful, and just, and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
1 John 1:9

To continue growing in your relationship with Christ
Have fellowship with other believers.
Read the Bible.
Pray.

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